Help! I have to interact with my ex while I'm still hurt and angry.
October 22, 2012 1:11 AM Subscribe
One week after our (non-mutual) breakup, I have to work with my ex at an event. How should I carry myself?
posted by feastorfamine to Human Relations (38 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My ex broke up with me a week ago. It was not mutual so I am still very angry at her decision. I want us to get back together. The last week I have been crying everyday and wondering how I will ever love again (yes I realize it's dramatic but the would is still raw)
Before our break up we volunteered to help out at a charity event which takes place this week. We have been assigned to the same (small) team so there will no doubt be interactions between us. (No we cannot ask to switch teams at this point)
Obviously I will not initiate unnecessary conversations with her, but when communication is unavoidable how should I handle myself?
I can either act like I'm not affected by the break up at all, that I'm not the emotional and unstable wreck I am. This way I don't appear needy and opens up the possibility of reconciling in the future? (But this will take quite a bit of effort)
Or I can be truthful with my feelings, which are anger and resentment right now, and respond accordingly, while remaining civil of course. (So no smiles, short sentences, little eye contact etc)
There's probably a middle ground but my traumatized irrational brain refuses to go there.
What should I do?