Should we move back to Boston after a month?
October 18, 2012 12:55 PM Subscribe
My fiancee and I moved to Chicago from Boston, a couple of months ago, and the both of us are just longing to go back to Boston. We can afford to move back, and she has job prospects out there. Should we go or wait it out?
posted by summerteeth to human relations (24 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
To make a very long story short, my fiancee and I moved out here to Chicago a couple of months ago. We moved into our new apartment, which we love, at the beginning of the month, and are in a neighborhood that we adore. The only problem is that neither of us can stop thinking about what we left behind -- our friends, my family, the hills and mountains and ocean, the smaller-city feel -- and it's starting to really get to us.
She was lucky enough to find a job very quickly, with a company that seemed really interesting. Unfortunately, the job was poorly described, and she feels more like an intern than an experienced employee. In Boston, she was working with a well-respected global non-profit, and was happy to be serving a good cause, even when the work wasn't great. She also worked with a ton of women about her age, which made it very easy to branch out and meet people. Now, she's pretty isolated in her current office, and the people she works with seem to ignore her.
I, on the other hand, am unemployed. I'm currently collecting unemployment from the state of Massachusetts, and have had a hard time finding suitable employment. As most of my experience is best tailored to school environments (college and otherwise) Boston was fantastic, as there are more colleges and Universities there than anything else. While I do like it here, I'm not married to the idea of being here.
Neither of us are really happy, but then again we've only been here for a few weeks. Very recently, she was made aware of an opportunity at her previous employer in Boston. The opportunity would be supporting one of the highest executives in the organization, and would likely be a pay increase, a 'fulfillment' increase, and a spot at a place she loved to work. She is heavily career focused, and her current job just makes her feel hopeless.
Then there's the lingering feeling that we're cutting and running too early. There's the knowledge that we'd have to find a subletter and that we'd likely have to move ourselves back with savings money. That we'd have to find an apartment in one of the toughest places to do so. That'd we'd have to pack up all of our crap and drive 12 hours to put it in storage until we get on our feet.
But is it worth it? We really do love Chicago, and have enjoyed a lot about being here, but there are a lot of human things that we've realized we miss terribly about our old home in Boston.
Have any of you moved someplace, found out it wasn't as great as you'd hoped, and moved back? Should we stick it out? My gut tells me we should stick it out, but this could end up a good career move for her, and there are certain things we miss about New England and our old life that you just can't get out here.
I'm not entirely sure what the big question is here, but I'd love any advice that you could offer. Is this just normal for moving so far from home? If we know what we want and know where it is, should we just run back to it?