I've mentioned my alcoholic mom before
. Her health and financial problems are mounting and appear to be quite serious, all stemming from her alcoholism (though I don't know if she's currently drinking).
She doesn't have much of a support network. I'm an only child, and the only family member that lives locally, the rest are about 1.5 hours away. She has one close local friend, and two that live out of state. That's it.
As she becomes less capable of independence, eyes are turning to me to support her. I am neither financially nor emotionally capable of doing this.
After a lifetime of chaos with her, I have learned from her mistakes. I try to make decisions that benefit of my future, and avoid things that will make my life difficult. She has never done so. It angers me that I am expected to clean up her mess and make her life easier and mine more problematic... which in turn makes me feel guilty.
I want to maintain a relationship with her but I don't know how, under the circumstances. I am in therapy to deal with the emotional component, but I'm looking for concrete, practical ways to deal with the immediate circumstances - ways I can help without getting dragged under, and ways to enforce the boundaries with her and everyone else involved. I don't want to move out of my town, I like it here! Any other suggestions would be welcome.