How to move on (and out?)
October 17, 2012 12:41 PM Subscribe
[heartbreak/confused sexuality filter] Recently admitted my romantic feelings toward a close friend, but have no idea how to pick up the pieces of my actions and move forward. Somewhat messy details within.
posted by anonymous to human relations (11 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I’ve recently experienced a heartbreaking episode of unrequited love which ended when I told my best friend that I (male, 30s) have feelings for him. The result of this confession was thoughtful and respectful on the part of my friend who didn’t share my sentiments but wants to remain friends; two months down the road, things are still awkward but I’ve been getting by somewhat better. However my healing process has been complicated by the fact that I’m at odds now front and center with my sexuality and while I know that it will take time and physical/emotional distance away from my friend to get over the heartbreak, it also means tacking into the wind, finding myself and exploring who I am.
I’m at a loss really on how to proceed! I’ve talked to my closer friends and family members about my current predicament and they’ve been morally supportive on all counts, but I feel the need to seek either resources or advice that none of them can really offer. So suggestions (yes, I am looking into therapy) on how I might begin the journey of finding myself? Thanks a lot in advance.
Note: With regards to dating and sex, I've only had experience with women; the emotional bond I felt toward this friend has been unlike anything I've encountered before (I also feel physically attracted to him).