What to do when your kid won't nap at school
October 16, 2012 2:31 PM Subscribe
Our pre-kindergarten son is not a napper, but the school expects him lay down at nap time. This is becoming a big problem.
posted by Arthur Vandelay to human relations (41 answers total)
Our son will be turning five soon, but he missed the cut-off for kindergarten by a few weeks and is still in a pre-K class. The kids are expected to lay down for two hours following lunch, which is a problem for our active little boy. He's never been a napper, even for us, and it's a struggle on weekends to get him to lay down for even 10 minutes. He's typically a pretty obedient boy. We've been working with him using Parent-Child Interaction Therapy for over a year and it's worked very well in many respects.
During nap time at school he will get off his little bed and try to sneak around the room, or if he does stay on his bed he's fidgety and noisy; either way, he disrupts the other kids' naps. The school has called us several times saying he will not listen to his teacher and lay down, so we pick him up and drive around or sit in the car (boring stuff so he doesn't get the idea that leaving school is fun) until nap time is over, then take him back. It's not gotten to the point that we don't even wait for the school to call, we just pick him up at nap time and drop him off afterwards.
We can't continue to do this, obviously, and realize we've begun to dug ourselves a hole. We've met with the teacher and director, and they said he needs to listen to his teacher and lay down, or he can't be present at nap time—which, they said, also includes him being expelled from the school. They changed the lunch hours of one of the aides that he really likes, and she sits with him at nap time and rubs his back and tries to get him to sleep. Sometimes it works, sometimes not.
Do any MeFi parents have any ideas? We don't want to leave the school, but we're kind of out of ideas here. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!