oh god, it's too early for this stuff
October 15, 2012 7:35 AM Subscribe
Every morning I make idle chit-chat on the bus with a young man around my age. Lately I've been getting the impression that he wants a more personal relationship between us. Me, not so much. Keeping in mind that this is someone I will have to see every weekday morning for the next three months at the very least, how can I minimize the number of uncomfortable bus rides in my life?
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Background: I'm 20 years old, female, commuting a few hours to and from college every day. A bit more than a month ago someone strikes up a conversation with me on the bus. We have a perfectly pleasant conversation about where we're going (me: to school, him: to work at a nearby warehouse), the weather, and how much it sucks to have to be up at the asscrack of dawn, and then his stop comes, we bid each other a good day and that's that. The same thing happens the next day, and the day after, etc etc.
About a week ago I started noticing that:
1. Sometimes during a lull in conversation or something, he just turns and looks at me for a few moments. Seeing as we're sitting side-by-side, it's a pretty noticeable head-swivelling -- the first couple of times I remember being a bit confused and thinking he was about to tell me I had something on my face, so I also turned my head. He just kept smiling at me, I gave him a somewhat baffled smile and looked away.
2. He keeps finding small ways to come in physical contact with me: sitting closer to my seat, patting my arm, resting his head on my shoulder, etc..
3. He gets on the bus at a different stop now. That is, uh, my stop. When I told my this to my friend she totally flipped out, so I'd like to note that we used to get on at consecutive stops, and it is totally possible that the two stops are equidistant from his house. But yeah, the two of us now wait alone together, in the dark, for the bus.
Now, I'm pretty terrible at reading social cues at the best of times; at 6am in the morning, during one of my more butch-looking phases? Totally blindsided. One last note is that, despite the above, he seems like a perfectly decent, non-creepy, if somewhat awkward dude. The confrontation-hating side of me says to just change bus routes, but this would necessitate waking up another 30 minutes earlier, as well as be a bit of a dickish thing to do without warning, imho... What now?