Taking the LD out of an LDR
October 11, 2012 11:14 PM Subscribe
Advice for long-distance partners finally settling together?
posted by harujion to human relations (9 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
Today is a happy day - after over two years of developing our relationship continents apart, my girlfriend and I are both flying to England to settle down together. We're lesbian enough that this has been our long-term goal for most of the time we've dated each other, and we have talked extensively about how this will mean new challenges as well as new joys.
My question today is - anyone who's been there, what do you wish someone had told you? Not just long-distance couples, but anyone who's done the moving in after living apart, or moved countries together with their partner! I'd love insight and anecdotes - stuff for us both to read together and consider as we start this exciting chapter of our lives.
In case anyone wants details, we're both around 30, and have shared living space for at most 3 months at a time. We've never cohabited in an apartment all our own before, and while I've lived abroad, neither one of us has spent a lot of time in England. She's moving to take up a research position at Cambridge university; I'm still looking for employment. We have a lovely, close relationship, which can only get better if we have some idea of what others have experienced when making this life change, and can talk about issues that might crop up before they happen.