how to respond to a guy who invites you on a date and wants you to pay?
October 10, 2012 1:32 PM Subscribe
A guy who i've been dating asked me out and made sure to include how much the event would be per person (ten bucks). We've been dating for a few months now and he has always paid. How do I decline and let him know the reason why, which is that I think it's pretty tacky to ask me out and expect me to pay, in a tactful manner?
posted by soooo to Human Relations (160 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
We aren't exclusive and he has never asked me to pay before. I think he knows I am dating other guys. I never text or initiate contact with him first because i decided I won't be doing that chasing ish any more. Basically, I let the guy take the reigns and fall back or put him out of my head and keep dating until he decides to reach out.
The last time I saw this guy (last week) I told him that I like to DO things on dates - my idea of dating a guy involves activities. I had to tell him this because he had started suggesting lame things like meeting up at a park or sitting around and I was starting to feel like we were fast forwarding to the boring couple phase! Yes, we've had dates where we've gone to the movies, etc. etc. but I had to decline his dates where he just wanted to sit around and talk.
So he just texted me asking me to do something - good start. I said yes. Then he sent another text and proceeded to put it is ten bucks per person. So I said "hm, no thank you." He then sends another text trying to explain how fun it will be and what I will get for my money. I haven't responded.
I want to convey that the event sounds fun but the idea of me paying is a huge turn off! It's like inviting someone to my wedding and after they say they want to come, telling them how much their plate will cost. Ugh.
So, how do I put this nicely in text form?