Boy Meets Girl. Boy is Awkward.
October 9, 2012 9:58 AM Subscribe
Met a girl who could be perfect for me. I'm not generally 'good' with women or relationships. How can I best attempt to make something work with this one? (Special snowflake details inside)
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (21 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Lets start with the bad. Early 20s college student. Naturally an introvert and I do not consider myself to be skilled at finding girls who like me. Had one real long term relationship, and have never been the kind of guy who has enough confidence to go out and pickup girls to hook up with. Haven't asked a girl on a date in 4 years. Consider myself a normal looking guy, nobody is throwing themselves at me, and I have one or two minor hang ups about my appearance like anyone else might. I frequently misread social cues(example, I have a hard time telling if girls are into me, I normally just think they are being nice no matter what).
Noticed a cute girl in class but of course I was too nervous to introduce myself or otherwise approach her initially. Still was sticking to my plan of not bothering to try and talk to this girl when, in some weirdly cosmic way, we started a conversation. Nothing significant but we spoke for about 15 minutes as we walked somewhere else on campus. Essentially I do not know her very well yet, we aren't friends, we are just classmates right now. Wanted to talk to her more during or after our next class meeting but my nerves got the best of me and I rushed out of the building without saying a word to her.
I want to get to know her, ask her on a date. Realistically, what is my next step here? I know I'm supposed to ask for her phone number but the actual motions of setting that situation up and asking her is really hard for me. Would it be too forward to invite her to an event happening the same day I will see her next? I don't want any of this to come off as me coming on too strong or being creepy. The potential to be embarrassed since she is a classmate in a small class isn't helping my social anxiety!
Had a feeling I would like her from the start but after talking to her I now think she has something special. Truly do not want to mess this up.