Please just go away!
October 9, 2012 2:48 AM Subscribe
Pulled away from a friend and now he's pestering mutual friends about me. How do I tell him (nicely) to back off?
posted by cucumber patch to human relations (23 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I used to be acquaintance-friends with this guy. Earlier this year we hung out once or twice. He's fun enough in short doses, but I never really feel comfortable around him, even as a friend. The one-on-ones especially are exhausting. Afterwards he tried to invite me to some events, but reticence and my natural forgetfulness meant I never got around to replying.
A few months ago he started asking a mutual friend about me, saying that he hadn't seen me recently and asking how I was doing. I didn't feel like engaging him and requested that my mutual friend say I was busy, or I hadn't been around much, etc - hoping he would take the hint. He didn't, and now it's gotten kind of.. creepy. Whenever mutual friend posts something on my wall, acquaintance-friend will immediately start up a chat with him asking about me. I stopped replying to his messages too.
This has gone on long enough and I guess I should have settled this earlier. I can understand his confusion because - from his end - we seemed to have a great time last time, and then I just stopped talking to him. Seriously though, is my radio silence not enough of a hint? Do I just tell him point-blank that I don't want to hang out with him anymore? With the weird way he's been acting, I'm afraid I won't know how to handle it if he gets aggressive and confrontational.
I'm female and we're all in our 20s, if that factors into anything.
Thanks in advance, MeFites.