They're nice in person, but a fanatic online. What do I do?
October 8, 2012 4:44 PM Subscribe
I've been an introvert for a long time (still am, but I'm faking it), so I'm not used this whole "group of friends" thing, and I don't know how to deal with one of my new acquaintance's dual personality.
posted by patheral to human relations (25 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I met this person online through meetup.com -- we are members of two meetup groups -- and in person they're fairly nice, outgoing and friendly. We get along, our dogs get along (one of our meetups is a pet group) and all is good. We exchanged emails and Facebook information and that's when the trouble started. It appears that online this person is a hard-core political advocate (Republican, not that it matters, I'm middle of the road) and very religious (I'm Agnostic). Now I'm being inundated with emails and Facebook posts that are very strongly political and religious.
I've already sent this person an email explaining that I'm not a Christian, nor am I really interested in politics but the emails and posts keep on coming. I've taken this person off of my news-feed on Facebook, but now I'm getting direct wall-to-wall posts. I delete most of the emails without opening them, but I really wish they'd stop sending them.
In person, we seem to get along well, I don't want to stir the waters there, especially since we belong to the same groups and that could get awkward. I have a feeling that this person has tender feelings and if I mention that I'd rather not receive their tidings, things could get explosive quickly. Other than send another email or seriously confront them face to face, what do I do?