Unforeseen obstacles to intercultural marriage?
October 4, 2012 12:59 PM Subscribe
What do you wish you had known before you embarked on an intercultural relationship/marriage?
posted by anonymous to human relations (37 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
I want to keep this as general as possible, but some information about us if it will help with answers: My boyfriend and I are from different countries and met in yet another country. We are also of different "races" (he's an Eastern European man, I'm a South Asian woman). Neither of us is particularly religious, nor are our parents, but he is of mixed Jewish and Christian ancestry and I am of mixed Hindu and Christian ancestry. We are the same age (mid-twenties). We're both politically similar (I am a tad more liberal than he is, but not enough to speak of). We have similar ideas about what we want with respect to marriage and family (we both want kids and an egalitarian marriage where we share duties outside and inside the home). I have met his parents and he has met mine and everyone seems to like each other. We are both possibly over-educated.
I ask this question because so many of the resources out there seem to assume glaring differences in religion or outlook or values, and I don't really see that with the two of us, yet on paper we look very dissimilar. What should we be concerned about, if anything, based on your experiences?