Do I support a family member taking drastic surgery or not?
October 4, 2012 12:28 AM Subscribe
I’d like to know if any has had gastric sleeve surgery or has a family member who has undergone this type of procedure? Can anyone tell me their experiences, pros and cons, what to expect and how to come to terms with and support someone who thinks this is the right choice for them?
posted by Under the Sea to health & fitness (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Background info is that a close family member (female, 30yo) has serious weight issues and has had for most of her adult life. She also is diagnosed PTSD and ADD and takes a host of medications since around age sixteen. She is a single mum with a 6yo daughter, their relationship is more like friends than one of parent and child (in regard to lack of discipline). The mother is not really able to perform everyday tasks, she’s highly unrelaiable, she hasn’t worked for around 8-9 years and lives in a bit of an imaginary world. Currently, her BMI is around 63, morbidly obese, (at 160cm or 60inch tall and about 160kg or 350pounds). Finally her many doctors and shrinks are starting to tackle her weight, as such her psychiatrist has been pushing for gastric surgery for a few months now, as a final bid for her to loose weight. She has visited the surgeon who suggests that the best procedure would be what’s called a gastric sleeve.
I am a somewhat concerned family member who isn’t sure if I should be encouraging this drastic surgery or if I should be encouraging her to get herself together and try natural ways to loose the weight. She doesn’t really have the motivation to loose weight through exercise (she has attempted) but prefers to binge eat, smoke incessanctly and drink sugary drinks. For example she claims she has to have a sugary drink when she eats to help digest the food, including when she smokes, so she buys those premix alcohol drinks. Her diet is appalling and so to is her daughter’s (a whole other concern). I’ve seen her eat entire cakes as a late night snack. Most of the family have given up on helping her but at the same time are extremely concerned about her well-being, her quality of life and mostly the impact on and future of her daughter. Everyone agrees that if the mother’s body weight could be changed then many of her problems would become easier to deal with. One of the mum’s major concerns is if she can bear children after the surgery.
I tend to think the gastric sleeve option is a band-aid solution but don’t want to discount and encourage her otherwise if it could be the very thing that will bring some positive change. I actually live thousands of miles from her so it’s hard to have a huge impact (such as implementing diet and exercise regimes with her) instead I am only able to offer words of support from a distance.
Any words of advice from those who have gone through the same would be appreciated.