On the road to nowhere.
September 30, 2012 6:27 PM Subscribe
Ka-rear? What is "ka-rear"? I graduated with a BA in 2006. I'm 28 and 30 is on the horizon. I'm still on the ground floor, which also seems to be the only floor.
posted by Nomyte to work & money (25 answers total) 17 users marked this as a favorite
The jobs I've had are not promoting jobs. The range of my responsibilities never changes. I did a similar job at 24 and at 26. I've never had a raise (I work for a public university, duh). My skills are not easily transferable, except, maybe, to another job of the same kind. And this job is a better fit for 21-year-olds, to the point of making me feel old and vulnerable. Stereotypical AskMe advice sez that one's 20s are a wash, but things start falling into place if you stick to it and work hard. But in real life there are no guarantees. Things aren't falling into place. If anything, I feel that they are stagnating.
I feel awkward in the company of my school's alums. At my age, they've had a promotion or two. They have direction and purpose, and big responsibilities, and autonomy. They are paid accordingly. They discuss big projects and talk about them with passion. I live near DC. DC-area alums live here because they care deeply about the work they do.
I like my job, but it's not a glamorous one, and it's not the start of a career. I don't have professional colleagues, what I do is not a "field." I provide a service and try to do it well, but it's a basic service and I am expendable. I have few career-related topics to talk about with alumni peers and they quickly lose interest in me. Sometimes I get condescending or patronizing treatment.
I feel that my peers are leaving me behind. I have no five-year plan. I want to put one together, but I don't know what should be part of it. I prefer gradual changes to drastic changes, but I'm not sure that gradual changes will help in my situation. I doubt that my prospects can be improved by setting goals like "attend ### trainings" or "join XYZ professional organizations." My line of work doesn't reward steps like these. And I've had a dickens of a time brainstorming drastic changes: I'm afraid of them. A professional mentor would definitely help, but I don't have one and don't know where to find one. The career center at my alma mater stops offering services two years out, and the career center at the school where I work has only provided extremely generic advice.