Should I just go to Sephora and let them have their way with me?
September 30, 2012 8:37 AM Subscribe
People close to me have been constantly making suggestions for me to put more effort into my appearance and it's starting to take a toll on my self confidence. What should I do...
posted by WeekendJen to human relations (78 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
A lot of people in my life (mother, friends, boyfriend) have been telling me that I should put more work into my appearance. The suggestions are things such as "do your hair" or "try putting on some makeup to go out" and the most common deals with my clothes looking bad on me and needing to wear nicer things. I am fit and non of the suggestions are health related, just superficial appearance.
I used to think of myself as fairly attractive and at times would find joy in dressing up for an event or futzing around with makeup for fun, but now I'm starting to have thoughts that without the crutch of makeup and nice clothes, I'm gross.
I have tried explaining the factors that keep me from being put together: I work 40-50 hours a week in a warehouse, where my work clothes get dirty. I spend a lot of time at home cleaning or doing home improvement projects. I don't go out much. I don't have a lot of disposable income to spend on nice clothes that aren't functional for my job and would rarely have occasion to wear. I am 27 and a good quarter of my clothes are from high school. The response I get is that I just need to prioritize and try harder. I feel too old to be this perturbed by other people's opinion of my looks, but everyone close to me has been saying these things with increasing regularity for the past 5 years or so. Its also strange to me that usually I hear questions like this and think that the asker should ditch the douchebag saying such things, but I don't want to distance myself from everyone because of this. I would love to have a life that affords me more time and money to put into myself, but its not practical right now. How can I preserve my self esteem?