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September 29, 2012 8:27 PM Subscribe
Sex drive issues in my mid-twenties. Help!
posted by kettleoffish to Human Relations (25 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Me and my boyfriend haven't done it really in more than two months.
I am just tired. I want to get to it more often, but at the end of the day, when I come home from work, I just don't want to. So I end up "procrastinating."
He has been totally understanding, but I keep having this feeling... that we are missing out in intimacy.
The spark isn't gone exactly… I'm just tired. My feet hurt all the time. I'm always about 3 hours sleep deprived per night. Sex is something that i want to do as a part of the relationship. But maybe to some extent i just don't feel like it.
Is this something i just need to figure out on my own?
I'm in my mid twenties... I have to say, I know sexuality is an area where many people come into their own after a while. For me, I still don't think I'm there. So it's particularly frustrating for me to be up against this deadblock.
Somehow, with work, and projects, and the struggle to get stuff done, I'm just too tired to be intimate.
Finally, I have to say I want to just talk about this with my partner but I don't know how.
Lately we have had a lot of miscommunication due to my partner's temper issues and have talked about doing couples' therapy. That's just full disclosure but I don't think that plays a role. I am still very much in love with him.
The temper issues may not be related-- this is probably just due to business or hormones-- but I bring it up because my fear is that somehow this dry spell in our relationship is due to a lack of intimacy, or something being awry.
Any advice would help. I'm not even quite sure what's going on with me but I want to improve it more than anything.