And now she doesn't have a leg to stand on.
September 26, 2012 9:01 AM Subscribe
How to help my mother, with several health problems, from the other side of the world?
posted by wwax to health & fitness (5 answers total)
My 72 year old legally blind, diabetic mother has had a horrible couple of months. First she has had low level kidney problems they are working on treating, then had a heart attack ending in her needing a stent, a few weeks later she had to go back into hospital to get a pacemaker put in due to damage caused by the attack.
In the middle of all this she finds out her landlord, despite reassurances for the past few months, has decided to not renew her lease and she has to move out. While in hospital for her pacemaker (she was only released from hospital for that 2 weeks ago) she asked them for an extension to find a place and the guy said no.
Luckily she found a new place at the last minute and can't wait to move and leave the bad vibes, as she calls them, behind.
Cue last piece of bad news, I just got off the phone with her and she fell walking her dog and broken her foot and is in a wheelchair for the next few weeks before she can get a walking cast.
I am in the USA she is in a small country town in Australia. I really want to help my mother somehow.
My Brother, Sister in Law and their kids are being nothing but great with her running her to doctors (up to 90 mins away in the big city to visit her everyday while she had surgeries etc) and the like, while working crazy hours in the two businesses they own. My SIL is arranging last minute movers to come in and pack up what my mother wasn't able to pack herself. Cleaner has been arranged to clean up the old place. Wheel chairs, toilet chairs walkers and the like were arranged by the hospital so she's set up at home.
My husband and I are flying out to see them all in November, she didn't want us visiting while she was in hospital as she said she wouldn't enjoy the visit, so money is tight as it's all being spent on airfare etc. We are both thinking we'll help her settle in her new place moving furniture, unpacking while we are there and pick up our share of doctors visits.
We thought of meal deliveries for the next couple of weeks at least but the only thing we could get delivered where she is is pizza and she won't take meals on wheels without a fight.
Any suggestions on things we can do to be of practical help to her while on the other side of the world greatly appreciated. I ring her every day or 2 and offer all the moral support I can and she seems to be in weirdly good spirits, mainly because she figures it can't get any worse than this now.
Also I am so grateful to my SIL for all she's done to help my mother and would like to thank her. She could not be more like a sister or family to all of us and thinks of my mum as a second mum so would it be weird to say send her a bunch of flowers, like I don't think of her as family? Or maybe I should just take her out for a nice lunch when we are in Australia?