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September 26, 2012 9:00 AM Subscribe
I'm worried about feeling too "boring" or "domestic" in my long-term relationship. Also, how to keep things exciting on a budget?
posted by leedly to human relations (26 answers total) 31 users marked this as a favorite
I'm really happy in my long-term relationship, but am sometimes concerned that we're becoming too settled, domestic, or routine. Of course, I recognize that being "boring" is only a problem if it actually bothers you, and I suspect that I'm almost more upset by the idea of myself as a "domestic" person than the reality. So maybe what I'm asking is - what are good ways to accept and recognize a version of yourself that is older, settled, and totally happy with it?
Also, my partner and I live in a major urban area, so there is certainly no shortage of things to do. Unfortunately most of them - especially real things you can do at say, 8pm on a Saturday night - all cost money. I've seen threads that talk about this, but most of the suggestions are for things to do during the day, not really free stuff you can do on weekend evenings. Also, sometimes I feel like I'm not "taking advantage" of the benefits of living in a city by not going out enough on the weekends, but it really gets expensive! And then I get to thinking, why bother spending X amount on drinks in a loud bar when I can also spend quality time with a partner at home, and THEN it's like, why bother living in an awesome place when you are just at home anyway? Any thoughts or experience with this would be appreciated, as well as ways to reframe the situation.