But I'm just so nervous!
September 24, 2012 9:20 PM Subscribe
I 'think' I want to get comfortable with not using condoms. How do I go about this?
posted by csox to human relations (29 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
(first post, please be kind) I'm in my early 30's, in a LTR, and have had a Mirena for almost a year, which I love. My boyfriend, also in early 30s, really wants to come inside without a condom. We've both been tested and are both monogamous. Neither of us wants kids, and I'm more than slightly paranoid about getting pregnant. With the Mirena, I haven't had a period in several months - a huge part of my fear of pregnancy is that I wouldn't even know for several months.
To complicate matters just a bit more, I've never purposefully had anyone come inside me without a condom on. (In a previous relationship, I was on BCP and the condom broke. I majorly freaked out, ended up buying many pregnancy tests, all of which were thankfully negative). So, I don't really know what having him come inside me would feel like, AND I definitely associate it with freaking out.
So far, we've been using condoms or pulling out (while I know pulling out isn't necessarily an effective means of birth control, in my head pulling out + Mirena IS effective enough for me to be comfortable with ) He isn't pressuring me, and is a kind, respectful and loving sort of fellow...but I know this is really important to him, and want to at least try to raise my comfort level. How should I go about this? If I DO decide to let him come inside me, how can I best prepare myself for when it happens?