By the way...our mothers are sisters.
September 24, 2012 2:03 PM Subscribe
I have a bunch of first cousins, aunts, and uncles whom I've never met (or if I did I was too young to remember). Both of my parents had falling outs with their siblings and haven't had contact with them for decades. How can I best connect with these folks without stepping on landmines?
posted by teg4rvn to human relations (9 answers total)
Mid 40s male only child here with parents in 70's. Both parents had fallings out with siblings over $$$. I think with one of them it was a loan that was never repaid, but the rest I have no idea. Years ago I asked my parents what was up with them and they just didn't want to discuss it. Fast forward a couple of decades and here I am in mid-life wanting to know about and maybe even have a relationship with additional family. With the assumption that my parents have no interest in rekindling their family relationships and that they would likely discourage me, how could I best accomplish what I want? I've already Facebook-stalked several of these family members and am thinking of dropping them a quick note. I kinda feel like an adopted child scoping out their bio Moms and Dads. What kind of approach should I take?