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September 24, 2012 12:45 PM Subscribe
DramaFilter: I moved to a new city for boyfriend, then we broke up. Should I stay or leave?
posted by anonymous to human relations (31 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
After looking endlessly for a job, I stumbled upon an internship in technology and computer science. It was a blast and I bonded with my bosses so well that I was offered a full-time position. I truly can't imagine a better job. I have a flexible work schedule, a salary equivalent to $60k in the Northeast (I live in the midwest), and lots of traveling. Nevertheless, I don't know anyone in this city save for my now ex-boyfriend. I factored his presence in my life considerably before I accepted the job offer.
He's 8 years older than I am (I'm 22) and is a very successful lawyer. During the summer, we hung out almost everyday and even took trips together. When I cam back, however, he always seemed busy. He had no time to help me settle in to my apartment, look for a car, or hang out. There was no longer anytime for fun.
Two weeks ago, I found out I was (at least) 6 weeks pregnant and contacted him immediately. It was a relief when he took me the abortion clinic and paid for it. There was no way I could have afforded the procedure on my own. He then dropped me to my house and promised to check up later. He never called. When I texted him, he stated that he was partying with friends. I was furious that I asked him to come by right away and take me to the store (you can't drive for 24 hrs following an abortion). Needless to say, he believed I was being too needy and demanding. He still didn't come. After, he texted me saying that our age difference is leading to too much drama in his life, and he'd rather find someone more mature. I find it hard to believe that I was asking a lot, in this case.
I'm looking to get back with him. I know he no longer wants to be with me. However, I'm unsure if I should stay. I'm a city girl and adapting to this new lifestyle, especially friendless, seems miserable. I have cried soo much, and I'm kicking myself for following behind a guy. I don't come from a great family, however, but I have a great group of friends there. What would you do in my situation? Stay or leave?