Wow, I've finally found something that was easier to do with the twins when they were toddlers.
September 24, 2012 8:14 AM Subscribe
Help me navigate the etiquette of my twin boys' upcoming birthday party.
posted by terrierhead to Society & Culture (19 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I have twin boys who will turn five in November. For the last few years, we've thrown them a birthday party, usually at the zoo, and requested donations for the food pantry in lieu of gifts. My husband and I reasoned that it would be a burden for families of the kids attending the party to buy (potentially) two gifts rather than one, and we didn't want to do that. It seems greedy to us.
The twins aren't having it this year, though. They've been to other birthday parties - lots of them - and seen the big table full of gifts at each one. A couple of weeks ago, we went to a combined party for two girls in their pre-K class who have the same birthday, and there were two gift tables.
What's our best move? We could keep the philanthropic angle from previous years and maybe get two five year olds having twin meltdowns on their party day. We've talked with the boys about how a party is about having fun with friends, not about getting stuff, to try to mitigate the meltdown potential. Alternately, I'd thought of saying "one gift maximum, please" on the invitation, but it's tacky to mention presents at all in an invitation. We could just send a standard invitation and let each family figure it out for themselves. We could randomly send half of the invitations out for twin 1 and half for twin 2, but they're both in the same classroom so the kids will all know both boys. Neither my husband nor I have even ever been to a birthday party for twins, so we're lost. Help me askmefi!