What does the couple who has everything register for?
September 19, 2012 5:23 PM Subscribe
We live in a tiny Manhattan apartment and have everything we need. What do we register for?
posted by alicetiara to society & culture (37 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I am getting married in April (yay!) but I am not sure what to do about wedding gifts. We do not need household things. My fiancee and I live in a small Manhattan apartment which is already stuffed with stuff (as is our storage unit). For the last few years, we've asked our parents for nice kitchen stuff for Christmas and birthday presents, so we have nice knives, towels, sheets, All-Clad pans and so forth and don't need "upgrades." I made an Amazon registry but it has five things on it and we have 150 guests.
The obvious answer is cash gifts, but there's no polite way to state that and I think most of our friends would be uncomfortable with that as registries are very much the done thing among our friends. While I have had friends set up honeymoon funds and house funds, I think they seem tacky (this seems to be a sentiment shared by most people on wedding boards) and most of them take a percentage of the donation. Even if we ask for charitable donations or no gifts, I am absolutely positive people will buy us things and I would rather not receive a chilli pepper tea cosy or a crystal vase that we will just immediately donate to Goodwill.
So: What should I do? Please do not answer "it is tacky to ask for any gifts" as 100% of the 50 or so weddings I've been to in the last ten years had a registry of some sort. It may be tacky, but it is also normal. Many of our guests don't know each other, and very few of them know my family, so I can't have people "spread the word" that we want cash.