I live in a country other than the U.S., but am a U.S. citizen. He is in the military and has just gotten a promotion that puts him back in the states in May. We've had some talks about "getting serious,"
and we've joked about proposals, or getting married. We've both been in long term relationships before, and feel this one is more rewarding and the one
. We've been together a little less than a year and a half. We both want me to move with or very near him at his new post.
Now I have to decide to: renew my current contract until May; take a new much better job offer (decision expected within the month, job starting in March) in this country (for a year); or begin shopping for a new life back home - job, PhD, transportation, insurance, continuous payment of student loans....I have a Master's, no credit card debt (but student loan debt) and no car.
The decision (and logistics) would be much easier if we were married/were going to be married. (that sounds like a cooler assessment than it should)
There's also the 1 month of leave he gets immediately after getting to the states... it'd be a great come home/get married/have a honeymoon/settle in time...but these things need planning in a bit of advance.
Should I just ask him myself and give up my ideas of romantic proposals? Am I being naive and missing huge red flags? Should I put myself first and just take the better job and see what happens after a little separation?