How do I deal with an oppositional child? (Child within, that is.)
September 14, 2012 4:07 PM Subscribe
There are things that I genuinely want to do and like doing, but something in me rebels. Help.
posted by summer sock to Health & Fitness (21 answers total) 84 users marked this as a favorite
How can I get past the big fat NO that emerges pretty much anytime I start or contemplate just about any endeavor? I genuinely enjoy having a clean house, and when there's music on, I genuinely enjoy cleaning. (Really!) At the opposite end of the spectrum, I enjoy making crafts. However, there is a part of me that is very much like an oppositional, frustrating child that says "FUCK no we are not going to do that. We are just going to surf the internet/take a nap/watch TV." Too often that part wins out, resulting in self-loathing and lack of satisfaction that I know I would get if I were only to JUST DO IT. Since I already know this, why do I let the frustrating child win -- and more importantly, how do I get past this problem (which has been pretty much life-long)? Please note: I am already considering therapy, so please don't exhort me to go. However, if you have been in therapy for this problem specifically, I would love to hear how you and your therapist dealt with it. Also: yes, I have been treated for ADHD and tried many medications. They do not help with this particular problem -- they just make me a more intense web surfer.