How to deal with an unstable ex-roommate?
September 13, 2012 11:28 PM Subscribe
My ex-roommate is refusing to pay bills and threatening to sue me for having sex. What's my best course of action?
posted by karminai to human relations (44 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
In May, I moved into an apartment with an acquaintance of mine with whom, up to this point, I had gotten along well.
Right away, we started having some problems. Namely, he didn't respect my "lifestyle." (Being a non-celibate queer woman.) In order to keep the peace, I refrained from bringing my partner home, and instead spent most of my nights elsewhere.
In August, without asking or informing me, he adopted a cat. This poses several problems: First of all, I had told him multiple times that I do not like cats, nor do I feel comfortable around them. Secondly, our lease has a clear no-pets clause. I tried to talk to him about it multiple times, telling him that he couldn't violate our lease, and he said, "I have to respect your choices, you have to respect mine." Eventually, I went to the landlord, who told him to get rid of the cat or move out.
He moved out. (Thank God.)
Here's the problem: Our water bill comes every three months, and he's now refusing to pay his half for the three months he lived in the house. We had a verbal agreement to divide bills equally, and all other utilities were handled this way. He says he feels no need to "invest" in my home when he doesn't support me or my lifestyle. I explained to him that this was a bill for services he had already used, and he had an obligation to pay for them. He responded with a myriad of unfounded personal attacks. After telling him that I would take him to small claims court, he informed me that he would only pay the money if I agreed to sign a protection order, stating that I was verbally harassing him and contributing to his mental health issues.
I don't want to sign this order. I think he is mentally unstable, and will try to invent a violation to screw me over.
At the same time, I really can't afford to be out this money. Moreover, it kills me to think that he would just get away with this behavior.
So, hivemind, am I damned if I do and damned if I don't?
What do I do?!