I didn't cheat. SO thinks I did. What happens now?
September 13, 2012 6:21 AM Subscribe
A few days ago, I came back from a week of vacation. Despite my calm and honest reassurance, my SO is wondering and worrying that I cheated.We've already talked, but she's still very anxious about it. This is the first time I've ever dealt with this kind of situation. MeFi, what else should I/we be doing or talking about? Did I do something wrong, and if so, what should I do differently in the future? I feel terrible, even though I didn't do anything to cheat at all.
posted by anonymous to human relations (45 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I am male, 25, and she is 18. We've been seeing each other for two months exclusively and it's been amazing. We had planned to go together, but I ended up going solo due to various reasons. Before going on the 9 hour drive to stay at my friends' house to help out with their wedding, I had told my SO that contact would be sparse, because phone and internet access would be limited. We managed to exchange a few messages during the week.
The first thing I do upon returning is stay the night out at her place; I shared pictures and detailed accounts from the vacation, including my first visit to a strip club, with the bride-to-be and her friends and how unimpressed I was. She shares how stressful her week had been, and we enjoy each others company.
Today, my SO texts that she has barely slept at all because I might have cheated and said it would be OK if I admitted to anything, and that I had been awkward, over-excited when we talked. SO goes on to say that there are so many pictures added to my Facebook (by other people) that have the same girl (married girl in the wedding party) posing next to me, and another one hugging or dancing next to me at the reception (not risque at all).
I texted from work, and called back to explain how I knew everyone- my visits there are once a year, and reminded her that I hadn't slept all night before coming home due to partying and babysitting partiers. I have been politely adamant that nothing at all happened that would be cheating- nothing physical or emotional.
tl;dr Danced and partied with co-ed wedding party, went to strip club, girlfriend suspects I cheated even though I didn't.