those pants hurt my eyes dude
September 12, 2012 4:40 PM Subscribe
Is it ever appropriate to tell someone that something they wear is unflattering?
posted by beccyjoe to human relations (41 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I have a close male friend who is totally clueless when it comes to clothing / style etc. And you know, that's fine. I respect that he doesn't really care about clothes. But he has this one pair of jeans that I find truly repulsive. They are ugly (subjective I know) and ill-fitting (baggy but too short. but not too short intentionally). He is a tall thin man and the too short jeans make him look so goofy.
I know he sort of looks up to me and cares what I think. I really long to tell him to get rid of the jeans. He wears them often. And he looks so goofy.
But I'm aware that I am kind of just being harsh in my opinion here and that my sense of aesthetics are my own and why should I impose them on others? Is it just controlling and mean of me?
I know this is kind of an unimportant thing and I don't know why it's driving me so crazy. But I'm wondering if anyone has ever told someone they're close to who is clueless about clothing that something they wear is unflattering and makes them look goofy and did you find a nice way of doing it?