I think we should just be friends. Actually, I don't even think that...
September 9, 2012 9:49 PM Subscribe
I met an online suitor who's more into me than I'm into him, and I don't even really want to be friends with him. How can I tell him this?
posted by dean_deen to Human Relations (19 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I have just recently ventured into online dating, and during my first date with a suitor I unintentionally said yes to a second date because I misunderstood what my date was asking (thought he was referring to our plans for the latter half of the date, when actually he was referring to going to a restaurant we had talked about when e-mailing at some point in the future). During our time together I really wasn't feeling a spark of any kind--romantic or platonic. There was nothing wrong with him, per se. He just doesn't seem like the type of person I could see myself hanging out with, even as a friend. I feel obligated to at least meet up with him a second time (especially after reading this
), since I've already said yes; but I don't really see anything happening between us. Yes, I do realize something could happen that would change my mind. But assuming it doesn't, what's the most tactful and respectful way to let him know that I don't want to date, and I don't want to be friends, either?