How should I compensate for something?
September 6, 2012 8:19 PM Subscribe
How do I make the most of my smaller-than-average penis? Snowflakey details follow.
posted by Rustic Etruscan to Human Relations (45 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a 24-year-old man. My penis is a little less than five inches long at its most erect. More importantly, it doesn't have much girth. Somehow, it's a grower.
This wouldn't worry me, but I haven't had sex or a relationship. There's not much reason for a woman to think she'll have a good time with me. I've always been timid, and I've been sad since puberty. These things, plus feelings of personal fraudulence, generally kept me from asking women out. I'm looking for therapy.
I'm also taking up regular exercise and a less gluttonous diet. Weakness and ugliness didn't help the timidity. The sadness didn't help the weakness and ugliness. Even after a short time, I feel good, and I hope I'll be in better shape and higher spirits by this time next year.
But besides solving my physical and psychological problems, I'd like to have some practical advice on how not to blow it in bed. Simply having something in the back of my mind would ease my worries.
I've been reading The Guide to Getting It On and various sex threads elsewhere on AskMe. I know the basic mechanics, I know not to be ashamed of what I've got, and I know that communication rocks.
I certainly know not to imitate porn, which would be foolish even if I were hung like John Holmes.
But the details elude me. I'm given to understand that I need to avoid certain positions, but which ones? Which ones make good substitutes?
"Get good at oral and manual" is the standard advice, but what should I do on my first try? What should I absolutely avoid doing if I want to help my partner have a good time? What should I definitely do?
How should I play off my inexperience? What should I do (and how do I keep from going to pieces) if someone looks down and says "No, thanks"?
Even the most general advice would be appreciated.