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September 5, 2012 5:33 PM Subscribe
My SO has Graves disease. How do I be a good partner to them?
posted by You Guys Like 2 Party? to health & fitness (12 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I'd never heard of Graves until we started dating. My SO is currently on hormone pills. I'm trying to be very supportive but sometimes it can be very tough with mood swings that seem to come out of nowhere. I do my best not to delegitimize the feelings they may be having in the moment, I never tell them "You're being crazy right now" or anything to that effect and I do my best to present positive ways of thinking (without being a dick about it).
I know that this is a disease and I know that this isn't who my SO really is and I don't hold anything like the mood swings, irritability, stomach issues or whatever against them. They are a wonderful, caring, supportive person and I love them more than I have ever loved anyone.
But it is hard though, sometimes the mood swings come out of nowhere and sometimes they can even lash out which I try not to take personally but even I kind of lose myself in the moment. Occasionally the mood swings can get very intense, not violent necessarily, but there is a physicality to the mood swings that makes me scared for them.
I'm by no means perfect but I really do want to be there for them as much as possible while at the same time not creating some kind of problematic role for myself like a caretaker...
I love this person and I want to know what they're experiencing and what the best thing I can do as a supportive partner.
What do I need to know about having the disease, dating someone who has the disease, how to support them and how to support myself?