Post-Break up Anxiety and Catastrophizing for a Month? Please Help?
September 5, 2012 3:13 PM Subscribe
How do I stop being so scared of my ex boyfriend not thinking well of me in the future?
posted by jujube123 to human relations (10 answers total)
So it's been a month after breaking up our relationship of three years (which was very amicable and we both told each other we would continue to care for each other) and we still have very friendly conversations every now and then. I know he thinks well of me and he is pretty in-control of his emotions. However, I recently remembered that I had lied to him about the things I did with some guy prior to meeting my now ex-boyfriend. Also, during our relationship, I had confessed to a couple of lies or secrets I kept from him. Now I'm scared that he'll find out in the future about me lying about my previous relationship and think that I am some habitual liar, that our whole relationship was based on lies, and not look back on us as fondly as he does now. And I would feel better if I know he is the type of person to approach me and ask me why I lied, but I'm scared that he'll keep it inside and resent me forever. I just want us to be caring friends so I can leave our memories as good memories and move on... Is this just my anxiety and catastrophizing or are my concerns legitimate? Thank you so much for your perspectives.
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