Modern, stylish, but not trendy, fairly subdued/subtle formal long gown for a petite lady with lots and lots and lots of bust to contain? Added difficulty: I will have dark blue hair.
So, I've got this wedding to attend in the end of October. The bride is my first cousin's fiancee and she's pretty cool, so I think my having dark blue hair in all her wedding photos will be fine. I fully intend to make sure that's the case closer to the wedding and if it's not I'll dye back to my natural dark brown. But all signs point to me having dark dark dark long blue hair.
The past few family weddings, all the women have worn long dresses, and I haven't, because I'm the youngest of the cousins and it's always been really hard to find something and I have nice legs, anyway. This time, though, the parents are giving me a budget of about $400 ($500 max including tailoring) and I'd really LIKE to get a long dress because that will be much more formal and fancy and help compensate for the blue hair. I've been looking online for about a week now and I'm having trouble finding anything in the style I'd like. I can contribute a couple hundred to the budget, but only if it's something I absolutely fall in love with and will want to wear for the rest of my life - and to say I don't have much occasion to wear a long gown is an epic understatement.
The bride reports that she intends for the wedding to start out very formal and elegant and lovely and then, as the evening progresses, for everyone to "get real funky". So, nothing that's going to be fussy or fall off of me. It's inside of a hotel in Sacramento so luckily, environment isn't going to be a big factor this time.
Style I'm looking for: I'm pretty eclectic but in this case I'm looking for something with clean tailoring and interest derived from stuff like hems and shaping and fabric choice rather than being encrusted with beads. I really don't like chiffon. I do like embroidery, but not lace very much. I'm liking this hi-low hem thing that's going on now, but in a long dress it can sometimes look ridiculous, and I'm wary. I'd prefer most of the embellishments be below my waist because 1. I don't need to call any more attention to my bust than it will already have on its own 2. I have made this beautiful crocheted lacework shawl
that I'd like to wear with it, it's dark purple and has lovely fanwork all along the wings, although that's not mandatory. I don't care much for satin but I love silk. Ideally, I would get something in silver or grey, because with the hair and the shawl that's a whole lot of stuff going on. I have these slightly blue-grey platform sandals
that I haven't had a chance to wear yet. A nice purple - not a screaming one, something more subdued - would also work I think? I am open to more options. I'd rather not wear black because that's what the bridesmaids will be wearing and I don't like black anyway. That high res digital photo print on silk thing that was trendy last year is really nice to me, (I was briefly obsessed with this Oscar de la Renta dress
) but in a long gown an all-over pattern is just too much and finding something simpler that's well constructed is proving outside of my budget.
I have a 32" underbust and 44" overbust - I wear a size 34FF in Elomie. I absolutely must be able to wear a bra with straps with this dress. I'm 5'1", with basically no hips and kind of a chubby tummy, I'm basically 32" from the ribcage, down. So clothes with good structure in the torso and fullness starting at the waist are what I need. Combined with my shortness, tailoring is mandatory (I live by a pretty great one, but she's very busy and won't be able to do very complex things in the time allotted, and does NOT do stuff like adding straps or sleeves where once there were none), and there's just nothing in my price range that really seems worth it.
Whenever I read fashion AskMes I'm always linked to tons of new stores I've never heard of before, with nice modern styling. But the added difficulty of the ankle length gown is really tripping me up when looking through past posts. I'm in Seattle, WA and am happy to order stuff online, as long as it can get here fast enough for me to get it tailored by mid October, as well as drive a ways to get to boutiques somewhere. What's out there that I haven't seen? Thanks!