How do I stop letting the fact that I have fair skin get me down?
September 5, 2012 5:43 AM Subscribe
I have been struggling with accepting my fair skin for as long as I can remember. How can I just accept who I am, and get on with my life?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (34 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I consider myself a fairly attractive guy, yet this is an issue I have been very hung up on my entire life (I am currently in my late 20's).
Over the summer, I will get routine airbrush tans so I don't stick out so much. I tan only slightly. It comes down to this — I am truly uncomfortable in my own skin. I try and pretend that this doesn't bother me, but ultimately I still think about it frequently through out the day. This strikes me as unhealthy.
I guess I have never let go of being teased from grade school through college regarding my skin tone, and I don't understand how to grasp the idea of having little control over a physical attribute and accepting that.
How do I accomplish this?
Extra details: What also plays a role is I don't have much support from my family in terms of "be who you are, and rock the world." I put a lot of focus on outcomes, instead of just living my life. I have been in therapy regarding my self-confidence, and while I have greatly improved over the course of my sessions during these past 2 years, this is an issue I still am at odds with. Coincidently enough, this has never been touched on in my therapy sessions. Frankly, I am embarrassed to bring it up because it seems flat-out vain.