Breaking an unhealthy thinking pattern
August 30, 2012 7:36 PM Subscribe
How can I encourage myself that it's okay to do something even if other people have done/experienced that very same thing?
posted by livinglearning to human relations (15 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
For the past couple of years, I've noticed that I feel quite sad when I see other people that have something that I've wanted but didn't pursue. I don't feel jealous of the person, instead I feel happy for them. However, I feel sad for myself because I feel like I can't have that thing anymore or do something anymore because another person has now done or experienced what I wanted like traveling somewhere during a specific season, moving somewhere that I've always wanted to move to, getting body modification like a nose piercing or tattoo, etc...
I think I feel sad when this happens because my sense of self and individuality feels lost or like I'm not acknowledging it because I'm letting other people's actions get in the way of my own life. But, there are many things that I want to do and I don't want to limit myself in life because of this unhealthy thinking pattern. So, my question is what can I do in order to move past this?
(P.S. sorry for writing such a disjointed and incoherent post...)