Help me get my dad's lovelife on track
August 28, 2012 8:16 AM Subscribe
My dad has not been in a relationship since his split from my mom 19 years ago. He's turning 60 next year and I want him to finally be able to find someone to grow old with. He lives a few Provinces away - how do I broach this with him.
posted by Danithegirl to human relations (29 answers total)
My dad is incredibly private and I think jaded over the idea of being with someone. My mother really screwed him up and she was his second marriage (the first ended because she wanted him to quit his career in the military). He's retired now and I can tell he's lonely. Both my brother and I have moved out (I now have a family of my own) and I'd really like to broach the idea of him finally finding someone for him.
He's overweight and looks a bit like a lawn gnome, but he's a genuine guy who would really be a great partner. He cared deeply for my mother, but she wasn't a really good person. I know I should stay out of his business, but I do feel like he hadn't dated because "of the kids", focusing on raising us instead of himself.
I'll admit, I would also be comforted knowing that there would be someone to take care of him. He does not eat well or exercise and it would be nice knowing that someone was there to love him. I would move out to his province if it wasn't for my own family. I've asked him to move here, but he just built his retirement home and loves where he lives.
How can I gently suggest the dating scene. How does a 60 year old man meet people after being out of the game for 19 years - and incredible ick factor, does that mean he hasn't had "relations" for 19 years?