Heya. I'm worried this will veer into chatfilter, so I'm going to be as specific as I can.
I'm doing something wrong, dating-wise, and I can't figure it out. I go on a lot of dates from OKCupid, and get set up with friends of friends, but nothing ever coalesces even to the point of taking someone home. I've been single (and unwillingly celibate) for the last six years, despite living in San Francisco, where it seems like the dates flow like Fernet.
I'm extremely reluctant to get involved with someone I don't know I want to be with for a while, so I usually just bail after one date and never see them again, even if they're pursuing me. I know on a logical level to "just go for it," and I'm lonely and sexually frustrated, but for whatever reason, I never do. It's like I'm interested in women but I can't ever meet someone who specifically delights me, if that makes sense. (save for one 9 month debacle
I killed off a few months ago)
Do I just need someone to help me figure out how to date (like this lady
) or is there something more fundamental that I'm not seeing about myself that I'd need a professional for? I feel totally happy and productive and social, outside of the whole sex/dating thing.
Oh, also straight late 20s male, if that's relevant.
Thanks for the advice, wise and benevolent Metafilter!