Should I ask my mentor for a recommendation letter?
August 21, 2012 7:19 AM Subscribe
Should I ask the mentor from my current employer (who doesn't know I'm leaving) for a recommendation letter?
I'm interested in leaving my current job, and applying for a fellowship in my field. I have not told my current employer about my plans to leave, and don't intend to do so unless I get the fellowship. I have a really great relationship with my mentor at work, and based upon the work we have done together, she would write me a stellar and helpful recommendation letter. The problem is, I would also be asking her for her confidentiality about my intentions to leave. While I trust that she wouldn't tell our manager (we frequently gripe to each other about the problems with our current manager), I don't want to put her in an awkward situation or do anything unprofessional. I plan to leave in the near future any way, whether I get accepted to this fellowship or a different job. Nobody else in the office knows.
I do have others who I can ask recommendations from (previous managers, graduate & undergraduate professors), but in my application for the fellowship I'd like to somewhat highlight experiences from my current position. I think her recommendation would be invaluable.
So, should I ask her? Is it wrong or unprofessional to ask for her confidentiality?
(Anonymous in case my profile can somehow be tied to my current job).