Do I need therapy to shake off my paralyzing feeling of loneliness?
August 20, 2012 4:18 PM Subscribe
Incredibly lonely and unmotivated. Do I need therapy?
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune to human relations (20 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 25 and I still live at home. I'm currently working and saving up to move out somewhere. Not sure where exactly. I'm a graphic designer so I don't have any career aspirations other than to be a freelancer. The past few months have been rough for me. Almost all of my friends have moved away and I have absolutely no friends left in town. Even still, the ones I keep in contact with aren't artistic types that fully understand what it is I'm doing with my life. I feel saddened by the fact that I constantly tell people that I'm working on art whenever someone asks what I've been up to. I have nothing to show except my work. Living at home is really degrading to me. I love my family but being around them is not very inspiring. I'm very appreciative of the fact that my parents allow me to stay with me and I always help out. So don't think I'm just being spoiled and bratty.
I recently got a new job that pays pretty well but it makes saving money take forever. Trust me, I rarely ever go out (due to lack of friends) so I'm not spending much. At this pace, I'll probably have enough saved until the end of the year. The job is incredibly isolating though. I work for a small company that scans and digitizes books. I scan, so I'm basically doing that for 10 hours with very little social interaction. I have no problems with my co-workers, they seem like friendly people, but the job is so demanding that there's no time to socialize. Except through breaks and lunch. I have social anxiety too which doesn't help things. I fell out of shape because of my job and lack of exercise, so I've become less confident. I have a problem with my looks, I always feel unattractive and other issues like that. I've had a pretty lonely life in high school and college and I feel like I've lost the ability to make friends and have a social life.
Well, the reason for this post is because I've recently been having bouts of deep depression. The work week is basically just me working a 10 hour day, coming home and falling asleep. I have trouble falling asleep sometimes. And often feel like life is moving by without me and everyone i know are fulfilling their lives. My weekends are spent practically doing nothing. With no friends to spend time with, I end up spending all weekend either being around family (which is way too often enough considering that I live with them) or by myself on the internet desperately searching for any interaction with people. There's not much to do around town. I occasionally go out and try to do things by myself for fun but it's becoming harder to do that. Sometimes I don't mind being by myself but most of the time I'm desperate for any conversation. Going out in public by myself feels very alienating. I've tried doing that just this past weekend and ended up coming home depressed. I enjoyed the time I spent but the feeling of having no one to talk to and no one to explain what I did to, I felt overwhelmed with sadness. My family helps out sometimes but I share nothing in common with any of them. So it's just mostly small talk.
The environment, the depression and the lack of a social life has made me lose interest in art. I was thinking about taking art classes, but I really just want to save enough money to move out. It's becoming much harder to get through the week. I work all week.. by myself and I spend the weekends... by myself. Just today I called out of work because I was too depressed and unmotivated to get out of bed. I felt like the past weekend was wasted because I felt lonely and didn't hang with anyone.. again. All of my weekends are like that.
Do I need therapy? To be honest, talking about all of this helps out a bit. But I don't want to have to pay someone to listen to me talk unless I feel like I have a serious problem.
Thank you for reading. I would appreciate any feedback.