Please don't give me that pitying look of horror.
August 20, 2012 12:46 PM Subscribe
Anyone have any positive stories to share involving simultaneous end of marriage, job departure and moving?
posted by DuckGirl to Human Relations (24 answers total) 25 users marked this as a favorite
I know it's very well documented and have heard lots of stress-filled stories citing the negative effects of people going through multiple life changes at a time, whether by choice or not. Somehow, though, I am currently in the midst of finalizing a (mostly amicable but still painful) divorce; leaving my job of six years; and moving across the country.
The snowflake details are as follows - I've lived in my current location for nine years, which is a solid seven years more than I ever intended (moved here to go back to college; fell in love with a local; got married and stayed). I've always wanted to return to the area of my country where I am from, and I've been generally dissatisfied with my job for the last couple of years, so when it became clear that my marriage was indeed ending, I decided to also take the opportunity to move back to my "roots."
I don't have a job officially lined up, but I'm in conversation with a couple different companies and have substantial savings to get through for a bit if needed.
It *does* feel very stressful and complicated right now, but I'm trying to operate under the assumption that it will get easier and that in time it will clearly feel like the best decision that I think it is now. However, a lot of reaction from the outside world is along the lines of, "Wow. How are you going to do it?"
So, can you share ideas of how you did it? Do you have any stories about multiple stressful events that turned out ok and didn't leave you a depleted, anxiety-riddled basket case for months or more?