Help a mental case when it comes to sex
August 17, 2012 11:22 PM Subscribe
Help me understand the psychology of Orgasm.
posted by anonymous to human relations (11 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in a good, relatively new relationship and as a female I have challenges orgasming. I know at times its tied directly to how I am feeling about my partner at the time, whether I'm stressed out about him or about something else in my life and no matter how hard I concentrate I am unable to orgasm. Other times, however I have no problem focusing and then slipping over the edge into an orgasm. My question is this - how do I consistently get myself to block out any stress or distraction and push myself over the edge. Are there any mental practices I can do? My other question is this: Why is it that when watching porn by myself, I have no problem becoming aroused to the point where I can easily come. But when I'm actually doing that activitie (i.e. what I was watching) with my parter with whom I am very smitten and attracted to, I often have difficulty becoming aroused to the point of orgasm. I had found in previous relationships when I was with a man I was purely attracted to and was essentially in it for the sex, I had no problem orgasming whereas with this person, I am emotionally attached to and sincerely hoping for a future with him - but this kills my ability to fully enjoy sex. Halp!