What is the happy medium?
August 17, 2012 5:22 PM Subscribe
How do I come to terms with the fact that my apartment will never be as neat as I would like?
posted by anonymous to human relations (21 answers total) 24 users marked this as a favorite
It feels like a spend a lot of energy trying to keep my apartment clean and neat, with not much to show for it. I love reading about minimalism and feel sadly envious when I do. My boyfriend has stuff - a normal amount, but still more than I do. I get irrationally cranky about this. Little things like empty cups being left in the living room or jeans left on the floor near the bed make me anxious and sad.
Whenever I have the apartment to myself for a few days, I love coming home. Everything that I had tidied is still tidy, and all of the dishes are out of the sink, and all of the surfaces that I try to keep clear and clean are just how I left them.
As I am writing this, I am thinking "my goodness, that sounds horribly OCD". I promise it may not be as bad as you are thinking. Cat hair and some dirt on the floor, fine. A few crumbs on the table, sure. I guess it comes down to the fact that my boyfriend has different ideas as to what a 'nice, clean house' looks like and things that bother me do not bother him.
Mefites, how have you resolved this in shared households? It is causing me some significant sadness and anxiety. I get resentful towards my boyfriend, who is a good boyfriend, and I don't like that. I don't feel comfortable in a home with stuff lying around everywhere and he does. Any help would be appreciated.