What to do about my mother in law and her parenting?
August 15, 2012 7:39 PM Subscribe
My Mother-in-law is sending her children to my house as punishment and it makes me very uncomfortable and I need help figuring out how to get her to stop.
posted by julie_of_the_jungle to human relations (43 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I have a teenaged sister-in-law and tonight when she and my MIL came over to visit my MIL announced that she’d be sending over my SIL tomorrow to “clean and be my slave” as her punishment for getting caught drinking. I was so taken aback by this that I didn’t say anything, but it makes me very uncomfortable. She went on to elaborate that I should make her a list and work her really hard since it was a punishment and that she was sending her to me since I’d obviously need the help since I have a new baby (less than a month old). I managed to say that it wasn’t really necessary and she told me that it was either send her to here or they were going to take her to their newly purchased (unairconditioned) rental property to have her sweat it out there. Since it’s still really hot here I’d hate for them to drop her off there with a to-do list, so I didn’t say anything more.
I know I need to put my foot down, but I have no idea how to phrase it because I’m having a hard time articulating exactly why it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t like the idea of being put in the role of parent or punishment enforcer, could you please help me flesh out why this is wrong, my sleep deprived brain is in need to help. Thanks in advance Metafilter!