Help me support him without being his mother.
August 15, 2012 12:37 PM Subscribe
New-ish guy friend I've been dating is experiencing a (potential) flare-up of an old, painful and worrying health issue/injury. How can I support him without going overboard into mothering mode, overstepping his/my boundaries, or otherwise screwing things up?
posted by anonymous to human relations (11 answers total)
It's kind of a weird and potentially delicate time for this to be happening. We haven't been dating that long, we haven't had any serious conversations about it, we're just not there yet, it's still really early. The last thing I want to do is smother him or try to demand time/energy he doesn't have. I want to be cognizant of his and my boundaries also (this is hard since we are still getting to know each other).
I'm very wary of this type of situation because I've gone overboard in past situations. I'm a problem-solver and a people pleaser. My tendency is to do whatever I can, more than I should, etc. I don't want to be that girl.
But at the same time, I really do care about him and would like to help if I can.
I saw this earlier question
which is totally along the lines of what I'm looking for; if you have anything to add, great. If you have any advice specific to a new dating/romantic situation, though, that would be extremely helpful.
Thanks so much.