August 12, 2012 6:25 AM Subscribe
Please help me stop worrying about sex (and everything else).
posted by anonymous to human relations (21 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I've always been a bit of a worrier. I worry too much about everything, and it has gotten worse over the past couple of years. Thing is, I worry the most about things that are imaginary and will likely never come to pass. Even things that are quite impossible. I worry and worry, and I can't turn it off. I've started having anxiety attacks these past few months, and I've been having a hard time dealing with that. Funnily enough, when things actually go wrong, I'm surprisingly calm and can handle the situation alright.
One of the things I've been worrying (a lot) about is sex. I'm in a great loving relationship (almost two years together), and both of us enjoy sex. Since the anxiety attacks, I can't have sex without constantly worrying about things like accidental pregnancy, etc. We always use protection (and use it correctly), and we're always careful, but I keep worrying constantly. All sorts of scenarios keep playing in my head---during foreplay, after sex, sometimes even during the sex.
I know that all this worrying is irrational and is likely going to cause a lot of harm, but I can't seem to stop. It really feels like the anxiety is never going to leave me. The way I deal with it is to constantly tell myself that everything is going to be okay, but I find that I have to keep doing it. Once every few minutes on most days.
How do I stop worrying so much and just enjoy life? I'd love any suggestions (except for shrinks) to deal with this crippling anxiety.
(I'm 26 years old, and physically reasonably healthy, if it's relevant.)