cancer, cancer everywhere. how can I help?
August 10, 2012 12:21 PM Subscribe
Two friends affected by cancer: how can I help them given distance and financial restrictions?
posted by FlyByDay to human relations (9 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My college music prof has prostate cancer. He just finished an intensive round of proton therapy out of his state and is looking at hormone injections for another 15 months, and various other treatments before he's done. He documented the whole proton therapy process via a series of hilariously dark emails. But his wife has Parkinsons, which is often accompanied, in her case, by hallucinations, paranoia and depression. So the person who would be caretaking him isn't able to do much. Neither are particularly old - late 50s? Their kids are not that nearby, and they are in the midwest, while I'm on the east coast. They do seem to have a good support system, but it's a rough situation, and I'm seeing it filtered through his humor! In addition, I'm going to visit my best friend next week after almost two years apart, as her mother has colon cancer, and she (my friend) hasn't wanted any visitors while she's dealing with this, nor has she wanted to come to me. Now she does. I'm wondering what I can do to help or just comfort them, given that I have, essentially, no funds with which do so, and I'm several states away from the former, though as I said I will see the latter next week. (Best friend) is an amazing cook so nothing I could make would be better than anything she'd make, just FYI, though I'd certainly be willing to do that while there.
As an aside, I just finished treatment for skin cancer, though I'll be fine, for which I'm grateful.
So, what can I do for them given the geographical and financial restrictions? I've let them know more than once that I'm available for anything they need.