Help me sort out my feelings about spending money on a wedding party
August 9, 2012 1:44 PM Subscribe
You live in NYC, and you want to have a party to celebrate your very simple City Hall marriage ceremony. But it's complicated. (money issues and feeling guilty inside!)
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You want to invite friends and family, and you think this will be about 60-70 people, maybe 75 tops.
You are torn between spending money and just not having a party at all. Your budget is literally 1k. Maybe slightly more if family can pitch in. But no more than 4k. You don't want to spend money on something that isn't want you want, and you'd rather NOT have a party instead of throwing one that isn't to your liking.
You have amazing guilt about having a party when you and your partner are trying to save money to buy a house. You keep telling yourself that the money is better served by putting into savings. A party is one night, a house is long-term.
You still can't shake the desire to have a party to celebrate a very joyous event in your life. Especially with the health and other challenges you've faced. You feel like for once, there is happiness in your life and you want to share that with people you love.
Lastly, you are completely crushed by the sheer cost of even the seemingly simplest places to have a party or dinner. Everything is sadly out of your (admittedly) impossible and tiny budget.) Having a party at a friend or family's house is out of the question due to the size of most people's homes.
What do you?