Door holding etiquette - advanced level
August 4, 2012 9:38 AM Subscribe
Advanced door holding etiquette. I found this question and answer
but it didn't address a variant that I'm always running into. Details inside.
posted by natteringnabob to human relations (30 answers total)
Ok so let's say I'm walking out of a building. I'm approaching the doors at the same time as someone else who's coming into the building. The doors push open if you are going out (my path) and pull open if you are coming in (their path).
Now I was told as a boy to always hold the door for a lady. But if I'm going to do that in this situation, it would require me to hurry up through the door so I get through it before they do, then hold the door - or else stand off to the side while I hold the door for them in a completely ineffectual way that actually kind of gets in their way. I notice when I do this I get an "excuse me" rather than a "thank you."
So what's traditional etiquette in this situation? What's accepted/polite nowadays? Should I just stand off to the side and let them pass without holding the door?