Does this friend-with-benefits want moar?
August 3, 2012 5:06 AM Subscribe
A friend-with-benefits asks me - "Don't you want a boyfriend?" What does this mean?
posted by mocoface to human relations (38 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I have this friend-with-benefits. I am 20 and he is 30.
One night we were discussing long term relationships, and I explained my viewpoint that I wasn't ready to settle down at this stage, and I didn't want to waste time on a relationship that might end somewhere down the line when I could be playing instead (my insecurity, I know). He on the other hand was quite supportive of LTRs, having them at around my age even, and how he likes the intimacy...etc.
Now he also asked me "Don't you want a boyfriend?" repeatedly in our convo, but obviously worded in different ways, e.g. When I was talking about how I felt hopeless and alone during my depressive episodes he'd say "See? This is why you ought to get a boyfriend, because of (reason)". He wasn't being pushy about it, he just interjected it at the appropriate moments.
So...does HE want to be my boyfriend? Or is he just giving me advice as a friend?