Don't bring me down.
July 31, 2012 7:15 AM Subscribe
Help me cope with my downer of a job.
posted by anonymous to work & money (20 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I love my job. That being said, it is extremely emotionally taxing. Without going into too much detail, I'm (secondarily) immersed in a myriad of tragic, horrific, unthinkable situations on a day to day basis. I deal with people whose lives are destroyed, pitiable people with no hope, people most of the world would happily forget.
When I'm at work, i can deal with this heavy stuff. But at the end of the day, I find transitioning into my personal life increasingly more difficult with each passing day. Generally, I deal with my thoughts, anxieties, etc. by talking them out with friends. I find it's a big stress reliever. But I'm learning I can't talk about my job with family and friends even in the most generalized terms. People just don't want to hear awful, depressing stuff. At first they are into it because they think it's like a TV show, but then, it really isn't. I think hearing about it makes people uncomfortable and feel bad for me, or really wonder why it's something I would voluntarily sign up for. People tend to say things like, wow I could never do that, which isn't really the kind of conversation I'm trying to get into.
The other thing I'm noticing is that this job is really changing who I am, and I know I need to resist that if I am to avoid burnout and have a long, successful career. Generally speaking, I'm an unflappable optimist and I see a lot of good in the world. I take pleasure in little things. I am happy to be who I am where I am. But I feel this negativity creeping in, or rather, just a handicap on my ability to experience joy. It's just hard to walk away from someone in a dark, dark place and get in the car, blast peppy music, meet your friends and laugh over dinner, you know?
So my question... How do I maintain my cheery outlook? How do I balance work with home? How do I transition from a day dealing with something almost comically grotesque to a night enjoying my family? Who do I talk to and how do I talk without dragging people down?